Mr. and Mrs. Haider Sajjad
thankfully accept
Mr. and Mrs. R.N. Zaidi’s invitation
to Dinner
On Sunday, June 11, 1993 at 8 p.m.
44, Little Lotus Lane,
Lahore.
Mr. and Mrs. Haider Sajjid,
very much regret
their inability to accept
Mr. and Mrs. R.N Zaidi’s invitation
to Dinner on june 11, 1993
an account of previous engagement elsewhere.
44, Little Lotus Lane.
Lahore.
Dear Zaidi,
Thanks for your invitation to dinner on June 11, at 8 p.m. Rest assured we will be punctual.
Yours sincerely,
Haider sajjid.
Dear Dilshad,
Do you know that Cooky is here bright with a bride from Europe? Be with us for lunch tomorrow.
Yours,
Mahmood.
Mr. and Mrs. Ali Ahmed Siddiqi
request the pleasure of
Mr. and Mrs. Farid Ahmed Siddiqi’s company at
the marriage of their son
Razi Ahmed
to
Mahnaz
on 11, E-Block, Model Town, Lahore
on Sunday, June 11, 1993
at 8 A.M.
Rose Villa.
Quetta,
January 7,1994.
Dear Pirzada,
Spare the rod and do not spoil the child. Do not think the ancients were always right. I do not mean to say that the ancients were always wrong. Their sayings were conditioned by their circumstances. Let us not forget the modern circumstances demand new approach. Let us learn who is best in all the ages. Our maxim should be. “Gather ye the wisdom of East and West.” In modern times more children are spoiled by using the rod than by spraying it. If you want to bring up a child well you must treat him as your equal. You must not beat him for everything. Rather beat everything into his head. You must win him over to your ideas. You must convince him about the rightness or wrongness of an action. It will be more fruitful than mere violence. You can force a child to follow you, but you cannot make him your follower by force. Only when he is convinced of the rightness of your advice will he do as you tell him. Logic alone than love. You must always appeal to his heart rather than to his head. To appeal to the long stick in education is to destroy education. It is like burning the house to drive out to rat. Maybe, the house is burnt and yet the rat is not driven out. He sleeps snugly in a hole below the floor and at last burrows his way out of the ashes. So use your head rather than your stick in dealing with a child. Verily, he is more afraid of your tongue than your rod. Even more than the stick, a good tongue can succeed. A gentle understanding eye does ever better than a talkative tongue. A sympathetic silence is the real part of education. An ounce of example, as they say, is worth of ton of precept. Think! Think! Think! Help the child to think and bring out his best.
Yours sincerely,
Mofiz.
76, Neelum Park,
Gujranwala.
January 8, 1994.
Dear Rifat,
Nazia, my second is very intelligent at home, but at school she does not seem to have her heart in books. Her heart seems to be only in dance and music, paintbox and flowers. What should I do, I do not know?
Yours Lovingly,
Sadia.
(i) Would you kindly allow me to have your cycle for a day?
(ii) Can you lend me your camera for a couple of hours?
(iii) May I have your new suit for tomorrow?
(iv) Could you lend me your fountain_pen for my examination tomorrow.
(v) Do not lend your stick to the school teacher. Thanks.
Kashana-i-Komal,
Samanabad,
January 9, 1994.
Dear Sadia,
If Nazia’s heart is in dance and music and flowers and paint box, why do you try to divert it to geography and history, arithmetic and geometry? Is not music more melodious and mathematics? Is not dance more dainty and domestic arithmetic? Is not paint box better than history and geography? Let Nazia follow her instincts and you must help her to bring out the best in her. That is real education. You seem to have a bit morbid ideas about her passing the Matriculation Examination. You seem to be afraid of what the people will think if your daughter is not a matriculate even. But what is a matriculate? He is master of none. He is not even a jack of any trade. Let your daughter follow her inner instinct, and she will become something in the world. If you suppress her instinct, she will just rot. Take her away from school and educate her at home. Help her yourself, engage a tutor if you can, or send her to some art school which teaches music, dancing and painting. If nothing better can be done, let her follow her own education herself. You buy her such book as she needs. In the long analysis a child is its own best teacher. All knowledge comes from the people to books and goes from books to the people. Let your child be her own guide and ustad. You just wait and watch. When we throw a seed in the soil, it grows to be a study paint. Earth, Sunlight, water and air, bring the paint out and make it grow. Let them be Nazia’s teachers.
Yours lovingly,
Rifat.